Happy Thursday Mamas! Some days I can’t believe that it’s been five years since having twins. Five years, and they are officially little kids. Not toddlers or preschoolers but kids who are going to kindergarten this year and man time flies even faster with multiples. Looking back on life since the twins arrived, there are several things I realized in 5 years raising twins.
5 Things I Realized in 5 Years Raising Twins
#1 It Hasn’t Really Gotten Easier
Three is easier than two they said. Four is easier than three they said. As I think back on the last five years I can’t point out a time where things truly got easier. Three was harder than two and four not much different. Challenges changed and different things got easier but as they did other things got harder.
The twins still have days where they fight non-stop and it gets more dangerous as they get older. Each year their vocabulary increases offering awesome stories and extra sides of sass. As they get older their wants change and they begin to become more vocal about them but their personalities start to shine through.
It’s all a balancing act and in a sense, it gets easier because you learn how to manage life with twins but my plate is always full, the to-do list is never ending, there is always someone that needs me for something, and the fuel tank is always empty by bedtime. So, easier? Not yet but they say five is the magic age so I’ll keep you posted…
#2 Never EVER EVER Underestimate the Power of Two
I’ve learned to do a quick scan before leaving a room. Pens, clippers, anything that can be used as a weapon or projectile. A load of laundry or a quick trip to the bathroom can have devastating effects on the rooms you leave. There are still moments I question out how they accomplished such destruction in mere seconds but teamwork amongst twins is a powerful thing. Using each other as step stools, egging each other on, playing lookout for each other, and keeping secrets. Twins are a duo that can take even the strongest parents down.
#3 We Are Stronger Than We Think
Mamas, we are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Raising twins has presented me with many days where I didn’t think I could take it another minute. I wondered why me and felt like hiding from it all. But I did it. I continue to do it and I’ve found a lot of inner strength over the last five years that has helped me be more patient, focused, determined, and stronger.
#4 Do We Ever Stop Calling Them “The Twins”?
Do you still say “the twins” when talking about your twins? My mom mentioned that other day that she needs to stop calling them “the twins” because they are separate people. It made me realize at 5-years-old I’m still calling them “the twins” during conversations.
The twins love playing dolls, the twins hate bedtime, tell the twins it’s bath time, the twins, the twins, the twins. I feel like at this point I should be referring to them by their own names but it’s become a habit to call them the twins. A habit I’m sure I’ll grow out of as they get older and begin having separate lives.
#5 Girl Boy Twins Are a Different Ball Game
As a mom of girl boy twins, my life isn’t filled with matching outfits, scoring double deals on clothing racks, or having the same theme for birthday parties. Nope. Different gender twins mean they notice at a young age their body parts are different which quickly creates two different bath times. They ask if they can marry each other because “why not, we are a boy and a girl?”. They can share a room up to a certain point but as they get older they will need separate space. I don’t know how parents of identical twins feel but I imagine their water bill and clothing budget is more affordable lol!
What are some surprising things you’ve learned raising twins?