I recently shared Why I Separated My Twins for Preschool and after just three weeks of school, I’ve already noticed some things. First, I want to say that every mom of twins is going to have their own unique experience when their twins start preschool. That being said, I wanted to share some Pros and Cons of Separating Twins for Preschool that may be helpful as you approach that milestone.
Pros and Cons of Separating Twins for Preschool
I’m kicking off this list with the cons of separating twins for preschool. These cons aren’t reasons I wouldn’t separate twins for preschool, rather challenges that have arisen. Challenges that are easy to tackle but things I didn’t think about before they happened.
Cons of Separating Twins for Preschool
Obviously separating twins for preschool means having different teachers, but I didn’t think about different teaching styles. One back to school night, one child’s teacher had adorable name cards with an object that matched the first letter of their name. The other child’s teacher had nothing. One child’s teacher may send blankets home to be washed on Fridays while the other child is wondering why they aren’t bringing their blanket home.
Double Duty Calendar
Not only does separate classes mean two different conferences, but it also means splitting time between classrooms for events scheduled at the same time. The other option is having one parent take one twin and then have the parents swap at the halfway point so everyone gets the best of both worlds.
School Paper Drama
The very first day I picked the twins up from school, I made the mistake of being excited about papers in one of their backpacks. The other child had “no surprises for mommy” and was heartbroken. The next day the both brought papers home showing how they could use super glue. One of the papers had perfectly cut out fish by a teacher and the other had adorably awkward torn pieces of paper. You can guess which child was upset.
A little tip for keeping school papers organized for twins: Keep a folder and label each pocket for each child. This makes it easier to remember which forms go to which teacher in the morning.
Pros of Separating Twins for Preschool
The first day my twins came home from preschool they chattered on and on about their new friends. Best friends they called them, who are apparently coming over to play soon. Friends who have them excited to go to school in the morning. Friends they may not have if the were in the same class and gravitating towards each other.
I’m noticing my twins getting along better and I think it has a lot to do with getting a break from each other. The less they are together the more they enjoy each other. Kinda like marriage lol! They are excited to see each other at the end of the day, although they argue over who gets to tell mom about their day first.
Helps Separation Anxiety
Before preschool, my twins did pretty much everything together. I talked about their Twin Separation Anxiety before and I’m surprised at who quickly that has disappeared. Four times in the past week only one of them has gone with mom or dad to run an errand. The other willingly stayed home with the other parent, twice requesting to stay home.
I’m hoping the pros list keeps growing, but for now, I’m still glad I made the decision to separate my twins for preschool. Did you separate your twins for preschool and notice any positive or negative changes?