Parenting is one of those things where we pretty much “wing it“. We read books, take classes, talk to friends, and swear to never do the things our parents did.
You will do those things…we all do and say those things that made us cringe as a child. For the most part, parents do a darn good job at raising successful human beings. But, there are 6 Things Parents Are Not Good At.
(Note: This post on things parents are not good at is meant to be humorous, and doesn’t apply to all parents. After talking to friends with kids, and other parents, I found these things to be common.)
6 Things Parents Are Not Good At
1) Parents Are Not Good At Not Talking About Our Kids
Anytime a no-kids outing has started with “that’s the last time we’re talking about the kids tonight”…kids end up being 75% of the conversation. Something will remind us of our child, we will remember an amazing story we haven’t shared, we flip through a picture on our phone. The opportunities for our kids to end up in conversation are endless so it makes sense that parents are not good at not talking about our kids.
2) Parents Are Not Good At Letting Our Kids Starve
If you don’t want what I cooked, you can starve. I’ve said it, but will admit that I don’t think I’ve ever followed through. I eventually give in with a PB&J Sandwich or something.
They say to let picky eaters starve, but I just can’t do it. One, I feel bad, and two, I have a slight fear of the glares from teachers when my son wants extra breakfast because “mommy wouldn’t feed me dinner last night…”
3) Parents Are Not Good At Telling Lies
I recently had to tell my son that it was illegal to not wear underwear and socks to school. They “feel weird” and it’s been an ongoing battle for over a year.
One morning I found myself telling him about the legality of underpants out of frustration. I’m a terrible liar, he believed it, but that doesn’t make me any better at it.
4) Parents Are Not Good At Going on Adult Vacations
Even when on vacation, we still worry about the kiddos. If our spouse is the one at home taking care of them, it’s easier.
When you have friends or family taking care of your kids, your mind isn’t 100% on vacation. You worry that things are going okay for the person taking care of the kids, you worry that the kids are behaving, and you also wonder what they are doing while you are away.
5) Parents Are Not Good At Staying Mad
Even if our kids don’t know that we are not good at staying mad, we know it. Even when they deserve the punishment, there is a part of me that feels bad for dishing it out. One of the things I dislike about parenthood is being strict, stern, mean, and well…a parent.
6) Parents Are Not Good At Taking Time For Themselves
The biggest thing that parents are not good at is taking time for themselves. When we do, there is a bit of a selfish feeling that pops up.
There is always a book we could be reading, a ball we could be catching, the latest gossip we could be hearing. It’s okay and it’s something I firmly believe is necessary…time for ourselves, especially when we are parents.
Can you relate to these things parents are not good at?